Mom Life

I think I could literally post every day about how much I love to be a mom. Even on my worst days, when B looks at me and smiles or picks his nose; I am filled with so much love for him. K and I have been discussing when we would like to have another baby. Obviously, both of us want one right now, but we are trying to be smart financially in order to give our kids a more secure home. I wont say when we have decided to start trying, but I do look forward to our future. I hope that God's plans work with ours. I am very ready to move on into the next chapter of our lives. I call it my "big girl" life. I want my "big girl" house with my two babies (maybe 3 if I can convince K!). I want to have parties in my back yard because it's big enough to do that. A driveway and front yard that my kids can actually play in. Unfortunately, we have some more time to wait for that. Until then, I am determined to remain humble. I have a blessed life with a wonderful little boy who I am enjoying very much! He learns and grows so much on a daily basis and it is so amazing to watch. I am also blessed to have met some amazing moms in my path. I will soon be reading a book and starting a discussion with some of them to help and encourage each other as we enter some of our more challenging motherhood years. "Terrible Toddler" time I like to call it. There isn't really a certain age where it hits, I think it's a whole period of time we have to work through and it's nice to have some other moms to back me up. Mom's need to be more encouraging to each other. It amazes me that mom's judge other mom's so harshly. Not everyone can breast feed, make their own food, cloth diaper, etc. There's a million ways to mother, and I am not sure there is one "right" way. We all have one goal in mind; to raise our kids to the best of our ability. So why put down someone who already works hard enough? About a month ago B threw up in the middle of Olive Garden. Literally as I picked him up to rush him to the bathroom, he puked everywhere. I rushed him to the bathroom where he threw up ALL OVER the bathroom door. When we finally reached a toilet, he was finished. I cleaned him up, took off his shirt and my jacket and took him back to the table. I quickly gathered our things, put his own *clean* jacket on him and rushed out of the restaurant to get my poor baby home. As I was leaving I noticed a mom in the booth across from my table. She gave me that apologetic smile that said "this has happened to me, I support you". I needed that smile. I needed to know someone had been there and made it out alive. Even though I knew there was nothing wrong with the situation, I was still a bit embarrassed to have to tell the manager my son's puke was all over her bathroom door. Having that mom give me an encouraging smile really helped me feel a little better. I want to be that mom. I am not saying I am perfect, I have made comments and passed judgement that I wish I hadn't. I am new at this and I am learning. I am trying to make a point to learn from other mom's not act like I am the best one out there. We aren't always going to agree with how someone is raising their kid, it's human nature I think. That doesn't mean anyone is wrong and anyone is right. It means they are just a little different. Anyway, as I love my baby boy and stay home with him to raise him to the best of my ability, I am going to try very hard to be a more positive mother. Positive towards other moms I see and positive towards B. I want me encouraging smile to make another mom feel better. I never want to be the nasty look that makes her feel worse. Disclaimer; obviously there are unfortunate cases of people who do not belong to the "mom" club. There are sadly abusers out there in many different definitions of the word, who have children and raise them in a poor environment. And sadly they probably don't feel that love for their babies like some other mom's do. If you see a child that you think is being abused. Really abused, not just a spanking for being bad or a talking to after a long day. You need to report this person. Child abuse is a serious crime and still a problem in today's society.