More Morality

Adding on to my post about waiting until you are married to have sex. I feel like I have come up with the perfect way to describe how to explain it to younger people.

"The beauty of sinning is that it feels so good. That is why we are tempted to sin. That is why we can ignore and practically not feel the guilt when we sin. That is why having sex is so commonly overdone. It feels good, so good you don't feel guilty having it, and therefore, you ignore the fact that you are sinning against God."

I have been discussing these thoughts with my fiance, seeing as how the time is drawing near where my sister is reaching puberty and I will need to start answering questions for her that, as a big sister, I can't quite say I know how to answer. But, as a big sister, I should be able to answer them. She will be asking questions about her body and boys, and I want to be able to give her advice she can use and understand not just the same crap I was given.

My fiance is a big brother, and though he is sometimes not the best big brother in the world, he has been through the question and answer sections in life and has passed some of his knowledge to me.

My fiance is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He gets me. And trust me. I am not easy to get. He takes my scattered emotional rants and forms them into something knowledgeable that makes complete sense.

I can write, I am a great writer, however, when it comes to speaking, I tend to jumble everything to crap. To finally have met someone who understands my jumbled speeches, is refreshing. I love him.

What Is Love?

Or more importantly, what is dating? I have been doing a lot of thinking about dating and relationships. Don't ask me why, I am in the world's most blessed relationship. I thank God every night before bed for Kurt and what the two of us have. However, I have been watching my best friend's grow, and with growth has come relationships.

The more I think about it, the more I think that courting is something that should be brought back. I cannot think of one relationship that has been "casual dating" for anyone I know that has ended on a positive note. Basically what I am trying to say is that dating, especially when you are young, is absolutely and completely pointless.

Think about it, courting is serious. You are learning and growing with a person who could possibly be your future spouse. It is meant for love and for marriage. It is not just mean for happiness. A lot of people go out with a significant other for their happiness, not because they are looking for someone to share their lives with.

Truly, you are not ready to be married until you are an adult. Even though I met my future spouse at the young age of 18, we waited 2 whole years before we became engages, and 4 years before we are getting married. It is not something to be taken lightly.

Sex is another issue. At one point in my life, I thought that sex wasn't that a big a deal. Now that I've thought more on the subject, I think that it's something special that should be between a husband and wife. Marriage is a representation of God's love in our life and it's sacred and that's what sex is. I don't know, everything that adults told me in my life as a teen just makes so much more sense now. It has finally clicked. It's something I really want to drive into my sister's head and make her realize as a young adult.